9 tips to become a client magnet

Do you wish you could attract your ideal clients WITHOUT having to constantly convince people or be salesy? So many of my clients come to me feeling soooo frustrated because they're doing *all the things* but still not getting any clients. WTF, right!?  

The truth is that it's not about what you are doing or not doing. It's about who you are BEING.   

In this episode I'm sharing the 9 shifts I made in terms of who I was being that opened the floodgates for my ideal clients to come to me.

✧ How one of my new clients manifested THREE clients in ONE day after just ONE coaching session with me 
✧   How to be the example of your coaching and embody what you teach 
✧  How to make signing clients and making money a natural byproduct of who you are 
✧  How to tap into infinite possibilities 
✧  Developing an inner knowing that who you are in this moment is enough to attract your ideal clients 
✧  How to keep going even when it seems like nobody wants to work with you
✧  Why you need to be willing to be rejected, disappointed, anxious, etc.
✧  How to create clients just by having more FUN

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Welcome to the magnetically youth podcast. My name is Madison Surdyke. I'm a master mindset coach and food freedom expert, you're in the right place. If you want to manifest a life It means you jump out of bed excited if every morning, reprogram your mind for success and happiness, feeling your best and become magnetic to everything you desire. For me healing my relationship with food was my gateway into mindset, spiritual and personal development. And now I am obsessed. And I realized the same thing became true for so many of the women. I've coached through my course the subtle art of food freedom, and doing the inner work around food became about so much more than food for all of us. So that's what this podcast is really about that expansion, expanding that inner work to all areas of our life so that we can become the most magnetic confident versions of ourselves and achieve our biggest dreams. If you're like me, and you're obsessed with personal development, then you are going to love this podcast. So let's freakin' do this. Hi, and welcome back to the magnetically you. podcast, I have got a wonderful episode for you today. So I'm going to be sharing nine tips to become a client magnet. And none of this is probably any of what you think you what you think you have to do in order to be successful in order to draw people to you, right? Like, this isn't about going to get people Oh, no clients get to come to you. clients come to me repeat after me clients come to me. Okay, these are nine shifts and breakthroughs that I've been having over the last couple months that have really allowed me to step into this identity to step into this reality, where I just have this constant flow of women coming to me and wanting to work with me and signing up to work with me. And it's fucking awesome. I love it. I'm having so, so much fun. And I know you probably if you're not, if clients aren't coming to you at the at the rate or speed or even the amount of people or if nobody's coming at the rate that you want, this is going to really help you. And it doesn't, it doesn't have to be, it doesn't have to take months, it doesn't have to take any crazy strategies. You don't have to say the perfect thing. You don't have to have the perfect website, you don't need a funnel, you don't need a strategy. You don't need any of that shit. So I started with one of my new clients last week on Wednesday, and we dove into these nine steps, not maybe not even all of these nine things I don't think we would have dive in to go deep into nine things in one session. But we really dove into her belief in herself. Her belief in her coaching her beliefs about her clients, and belief in possibility. And I am not kidding you on Friday. she messaged me on boxer because all of my clients get unlimited voxer access with me. And she said, Oh my fucking god, Madison, like, you're not gonna believe this. And I'm like, What? And then I'm also in the back of my head. I'm like, of course, like, Yes, I am going to believe this. Like, of course, she's gonna say some magic or mere miracle happen, because that's just how this shit works. As soon as my clients just make the decision to work with me and start working with me. It's like, the universe literally responds to that energy to that decision to that declaration within yourself to up level and expand and to work with someone who feels like an expander for you, someone who is going to help raise you up to that next level, who's someone who's going to see you as your higher self, not as the version of you that you maybe used to be, or are done being. So she messages me Friday, two days later, we had one session. she messaged me two days later. And she was like, Oh my gosh, Madison, like I thought to myself, before I went to get my eyebrows down, like oh my gosh, like, I could become my client like, I I could sign her as a client like I could sign a client today. I could sign the eyebrow person as a client today and she was just playing, playing with possibility. And lo and behold of fucking course she goes to get her eyebrows done. The eyebrow. I don't know what to call an eyebrow person and it feels like I'm doing them a disservice. So if anyone has a more appropriate name, please let me know. But I'm just going to call them the eyebrow person because I don't know what else to call her. And I would like to keep people's privacy anonymous any who so the eyebrow person became one of our clients on the fucking spot and Her sister also wanted to join. So she joined as well. And then she said, I think it was like she wanted to gift it to her sister in law or somebody, she wanted to gift it to somebody or a friend. So three, three clients in one day, after one session, tapping into this possibility tapping into her higher self, literally, after one session, she had been struggling and struggling and struggling to get clients, she was just like, I don't understand, like, Why are all the clients that coming to my friends, but they're not coming to me? Like I'm doing all the same shit. Like, why is it working for them, and it's not working for me, because it has not, it has nothing to do with what you're doing. It's who you're being who you believe you are, what you believe is possible. And when she made those shifts, and our first session, it's like, boom, clients come in, right? So I'm going to be sharing with you nine tips that I've really seen shift things for me in my business that are shifting things so fucking fast, and my clients, businesses and magnetizing clients, to them, their ideal clients, just coming to them. In our console. I remember she told me, she's like Madison, I'm just so tired of feeling I got to convince people and go get them. No, you don't have to do any of that. They get to come to me, that's what I want you to choose to believe. So number tip number one, is to be an example of your product. Be an example of your product and have your coaching be and embody what you teach. Maybe this is a question you can journal on, where in my life and or in my business? Am I not living what I teach? And how can I How can I step up? How can I be what I'm teaching? And this is also an opportunity to check yourself because I think a lot of us have been brainwashed by all these like strategy and funnel coaches who are like you have to do it this way. You have to say this and you have to like, promise all this crazy shit to people. No, you don't have to do that. You just be yourself. speak your truth, right? Like the reason you've probably started a business or became a coach because was probably because there was something in your life that you moved through that transformed you that you transformed through. And now you want to help other people do that. Right? So you've done it, you are the embodiment. Just be that be that person be your truth. speak your truth, speak what really feels true and real for you speak from your heart, just be an embody what you teach. And obviously, none of us are perfect. None of us are going to perfect a perfect perfect. embody everything we teach all the time. That's why we need healers and guides to write and we don't need anything. We get to want that we get to want someone to support us to help us get to our next level. So be an example. Be the example of your coaching, be in the magic and miracle of your offerings. If you're offering life coaching, how can you live? Love your life more? How could you do things that make you feel more alive? How can you show people that let people in on that? Right? Okay, tip number two, speak to the people who are ready today and believe they're out there waiting to hear from you. Like what if you believed that there was always at least 100 people lurking on the verge of dming you on the verge of booking a console or discovery call with you on the verge of buying one of your online products or whatever it is that you sell? What if there were 100 people lurking? And the only thing that you needed to do to tip them over the edge was to believe they exist, to believe they want to work with you. And to believe that they're ready, and they're not ready tomorrow or next week or next year. You're speaking to the people who are ready today. You don't need to convince people those are not your people, unless you want them to be unless you want to convince all day long and still not see results. speak to the people who are ready today. Those are your people. Your people are the people who note today that they want to work with you who are ready to invest today to work with you who are ready to make that empowering decision for themselves today. Tip number three, play with possibility. So this is the one that I was really helping my client last week tap into play with possibility I could sign a client today it's possible it's possible that I make $10,000 Today it's possible I make $100,000 today, it's possible that whatever whatever it is, you're trying to create, just play around with it. Right It's it's um, sometimes can be hard to go from Okay, I'm not signing any clients to I'm going to sign a client today. Your brain goes yeah, bullshit. Where Where have you been? Where have the clients been? Like, where the fuck are they? Right? So It helps our brains start when we play with possibility like it's we soften and we just say like, Oh, it's possible. I could sign a client today. Obviously, the ultimate belief system we're moving into is I'm going to write the inevitability. But you don't have to go from zero belief to this is inevitable. Overnight, you can go from zero belief to it's possible. It's possible it's possible. It's the belief that it's possible is enough to shift things if you really choose to believe that. So choose to believe the most ideal clients who are ready, ready to pay for my services are on their way to me now they're finding me, they're reaching out to me, and they're signing up with these, it always works better than I ever thought it could. My actions are always adding up to exactly what I want, or better just play with possibility. Let yourself believe it's possible, even when your current or past reality tells you that maybe it's not. Which brings me to Tip number four, you have to decide that you are the leader of your energy, you are the leader of your life. We need to let go of reacting to our past reacting to our current circumstances waiting for something to respond to to tell us that we're good enough or worthy enough, we're ready enough. No, stop reacting stoppers, waiting for something to respond to. You are the leader of your energy, you are the leader of your life, we have to stop letting our life our circumstances lead us we get to lead our circumstances. When you let your circumstances lead you and you're just constantly responding to past and current circumstances. Guess where you create same old shit over and over. When you step into being the leader, the creator of your life. Guess what you create new possibilities, infinite possibilities magic miracles, you're tapping into your magnetic energy when you choose to be the leader, the creator of your life. Okay. And I actually just right before this, I did an Instagram Live on this it's called reacting to versus leading your life. So I highly recommend you go watch that it might also come I might also publish it on the podcast as well. But go find it on HGTV. I'm magnetically you on Instagram. It's a really, really good one. Okay, tip number five, be a human speak your truth be you know that who you are, in this moment is enough. You don't need to be more more healed, more enlightened, more knowledgeable, more certified, more qualified, more this more that. What of who you are in this moment is enough. Right? Like, I think what I what I used to do in the beginning of my business, and you know, everything's a learning opportunity. So I don't regret it. But I've absolutely fucking learned from it. I used to kind of just regurgitate what I was reading in books. I was like spitting out all this knowledge. But I wasn't I hadn't fully embodied it. I didn't fully believe it and no it in my soul yet. And so it was landing flat. And now I'm just I just be myself, I speak my truth. I asked myself, when I create an Instagram post, what's the most true thing I could say today, and I just speak from my heart, people can feel that. That's what makes you magnetic. You're the only you, you're the only you who can say the things in the way that you can say them in the way that they will land perfectly with the perfect people for you. Nobody else can do that. And you're robbing people of the opportunity to hear it and receive it in a way they need to receive it from you and only you when you're not fully being yourself. And just let yourself be a human like, no one's perfect. No one's perfect. So talk about not being perfect. Use that in your content. show people show people the real you and know that the real you is enough. Okay. Number six, this is kind of tied in with number five. tell stories. I don't mean make up stories. You can pick up stories like metaphors. I'm not suggesting to lie. No, that's not what I'm saying. tell stories tell stories about your life. Like if this thing happened last week, here's the lesson I learned from it. You know, tell your own life story, your own transformation, tell your transformation over and over and over again. I've told mine six zillion times. And you know, and it's no less powerful each time. There's a new person who gets to hear it every time there's a new energy that you say it every time. There's someone who might be ready to hear it every time. Okay, so keep keep telling your story. If that's the only one you feel comfortable telling them. But it's also tells stories like that, that don't mix business and content so easy. You get to live, what you're teaching and body what you're teaching. And then you literally just tell stories about It's so easy, it gets to be that easy. Like, I literally feel like I have an endless stream of content. I cannot help myself from creating so many podcasts, and so many Instagram lives and so many Instagram posts because I have so many stories, I'm living the miracle of coaching. I'm living the miracle of what I have to offer. And I tell stories about it. Um, tip number seven, keep going. Even when it looks like it's not happening. There's always lurkers, there's always people lurking, there's always people wanting to work with you, they exist, they're out there. They're right there. And you have to keep going, even when you don't see them yet, just because you know, you keep that knowing you keep that belief that they're there. They're coming, they're signing up now. And even if you can't see the results, this is something that Monica Gates said on the freedom life podcast, Rachel hunt, I worked with her in a couple of her different programs. And last year, and I listened to her podcast, and it was with Monica Yates. And Monica said, even if you can't see the results, it doesn't mean what you're doing is not working. If you're happy, valuing yourself, loving your life doing what brings you joy, you've done your part and you don't need to feel like you're doing something wrong. Let that really sink in. choose to believe that you're doing it right choose to believe that you cannot possibly fuck it up. choose to believe it's all working out better for you than you ever thought it could. It always works better than I ever thought it could. Tip number eight, be willing, be willing to be rejected, be willing to be disappointed, be willing to be afraid, anxious, be willing to allow your emotions. The extent to which you're able to allow your emotions is the extent to which you'll be able to receive, because the extent to which you're able to allow emotions is the extent that you'll be willing to show up. If you're not willing to feel disappointed, then you're not going to show up and take the courageous actions. If you're not willing to be rejected, you're not going to put yourself in your services out there. Right? So be willing expand your capacity to feel quote, negative emotions. What if they meant nothing about you? What if they meant nothing about why you're able to create? What if they just were? What if they didn't mean anything? What if they were harmless? What if it was okay? So feel them, feel them. And then you get to move on? Again, you're the leader of the light for your life, right? So feel them, allow yourself to feel them, process it, close your eyes and breathe into it. And then when you've given yourself that allowing and compassion with your emotions, then you can choose to shift. Tip number nine is to just do the next fun thing. So we get so caught up in should I do this? Should I do that? What's the right thing to say? What's the right content? bla bla bla, bla bla, we have like 6 million ideas. At least I do it. I'm like, ah, and it's like, Okay, first of all, that's a blessing. So let that be that. But just like, instead of trying to do the right thing, the thing that you think will if I do this, then I will get that I will get all the clients the thing you think you're supposed to do? No. What if you just did the next fun thing? Just close your eyes, ask yourself self right now, what's the next fun thing I could do? And go do that fun thing. And then after that fun thing, you ask yourself, what's the next fun thing I could do? see where it leads you let your desires lead you let your desires Let the fun. Let your desires and the fun be your roadmap. I promise you pay will not lead you astray. Okay, I want to read you this amazing, amazing metaphor that I heard NLP. And that's actually something that was really really awesome about NLP as we learned how to get better at using metaphors and teaching through metaphors. I feel like it's something I've really been working on is and I see an others and love and others and when other people use metaphors that really like hits me and it's because our subconscious minds learn best through like symbols and metaphors and stories. Anyway, so I'm going to read a new one that was really, really extremely powerful. Okay, so we're gonna close your eyes unless you're driving just or like walking outside. If you're in a safe place where you can close your eyes, close your eyes. If not, you can still receive this with your eyes open. Okay, so imagine that you're blindfolded and treading water in the center of a large swimming pool. And you're struggling desperately to grab the edge of the pool that you think is nearby. But it's really not. It's far away. Trying to grab that imaginary edge is stressing you out and tiring you out as you splash around aimlessly to grab for something that's not there. Now imagine that you pause, take a deep breath and realize that there's nothing nearby Hold on to just water around you. You can continue to struggle, trying to grab at something that doesn't exist. Or you can accept that there's only water around you relax and flow. Today, I challenge you to ask yourself, What are you desperately trying to hold on to in your life? How is it affecting you? And then imagine that thing that you're trying to hold on to, doesn't really exist isn't really necessary. And just envision yourself letting go and just floating? How would this change your situation? If you could embody this, if you could stop clinging and grabbing on to something out there something that you need, need to get clients? Where are they like clinging and grabbing, flailing around in the water trying to get them? That's what I used to feel like in my business. Right. And I know, many of my clients have felt the same way when they come to Me too. But if you didn't have to flail and clinging and grab around and, like drown yourself, what if you could just float? And what if the clients would come to you, I'm like imagining them now. Rubber Ducks in the water, and they just get silly, like flow to you. Anyway, I think, I think I just took that metaphor a little too far at the end, but you get the point, right? Like, you don't have to cling in grasp on so hard. Allow yourself to desire clients, allow yourself to desire money, and see if you can let go of the need. Release the need. And just flow. Let yourself be let yourself receive. Let yourself lean get in that lean back feminine energy and allow what you want to come to you. Allow yourself to receive it, allow yourself to want it and allow yourself to have it. So I am so excited to hear from you. I want to know which one of these nine tips was your favorite. Or if you acted on one of these or something, you had a breakthrough something shifted for you or after listening to this you magnetize a client, I want to hear about it, send me a message on get on dm in my DMS I magnetically cue on Instagram. And if you want my help, tapping more into this diving deeper into all of this, becoming the kind of person who can walk into their eyebrow studio and magnetize three clients like that, the snap of fingers in the blink of an eye. If that's what you want. I would love to help you create that I would love to help you become magnetically you Ray like I want to help I help my clients magnetize clients to them just for being themselves. Like what if you can magnetize all the clients and money you wanted just by being yourself and having fun? I promise you it's possible, because this is what I've shifted into. And it's so easy. It's so fun. And I really I want this for you too. So if this speaks to you, if you're ready for this, I would love to work with you send me a DM on Instagram. Let me know you're ready to work with me and we can get you started. We can get you all set up. I can answer any questions you have. Or if you want to you can book a free console with me. And we can talk a little bit more about it. There should be a link in the show notes or the link in my bio on Instagram. So yeah, that's all I have for you today. Have an amazing, amazing rest of your day. Be magnetic believe you are magnetic. Let your ideal clients come to you. Let the money come to you believe it's coming. And it will lead your life. lead your life lead your energy and your life and the universe will respond to you. Your ideal clients will respond to that energy. So go out there shine out your beautiful energy. I feel like I could ramble on this topic forever. It's really lighting up. Anyway, I'm actually going to cut myself off now. So see you on the next episode. Bye Love you. I'm so grateful for you listening today if this resonated with you, it would mean the world to me if you'd hit subscribe and then leave a review on iTunes and everybody is invited to the after party which takes place every day on Instagram I medically you so come hang out with us there. And if you're really fired up about mindset, spiritual and personal development, head to magneticallyyou.com to check out all the fun stuff I have going on there like my coaching, and my courses, free workshops, all the good stuff and I will see you on the next episode.